****Please, for the love of God, do not comment just to say my eldest is only eight and I have lots of time to worry about this - I like to be prepared****
My Mother was an alcoholic. I am not sure if she realized she was, or if my dad did either, but even as a child and young teen I was aware that she had a disease. The fact that she would often drive to the next town or the town after that to buy her cases of beer and bottles of vodka at least point to the fact that she knew that the amount she was imbibing was too much.
At the age of 8 I was able to make a perfect Ceaser and pour a beer without it foaming.
I do not drink. Well - technically I do not drink. Last summer when we went camping, hubs and I bought a set of coolers -either 12 or nine, I cannot recall. I am unable to finish a whole bottle, and even after drinking half I am very buzzed. (I detest the "buzzed" feeling, by the way). In the past ten years I can count on one hand how many times I have had an alcoholic beverage, and that includes a wine toast at weddings. I am absolutely positive that one of those
alcohol rehabs would have helped my mom, but before rehab can become a useful tool, first you have to admit there is a problem!
Now. I realize that my unwillingness to drink alcohol is due to the fact that I did not like who my mother was after a few beers. I also know that alcoholism is a genetic disease. If your parent is an alcoholic, chances are you will become one too - provided you abuse alcohol.
My boys know what alcohol is, we explained it to them this summer camping, I did not want them to sneak a sip of their dad's or my cooler, but when do I explain to them about a grandmother they never knew.
Seeing my mom drunk was a great deterrent for me, but they won't get that option. AND,
Is the predisposition to alcoholism able to travel generations? Are my kids more likely to become alcoholics becuase of my mother
(and my dad's father truth be told) or does it stop now becuase me and Hubs do not overly imbibe?
As much as I love living in a small town, the truth of it is drugs and alcohol are even more rampant among the children because of how little there is for them to do! He is eight now, but in two short years he is in middle school. I think the time to discuss the problem of drugs and alcohol has come, hubs disagrees. He wants to wait for our son to bring it up. I think thats waiting too long. if he does not know drugs and alcohol are bad, how will he make the right decision when they are offered to him?
So far, the only plan I have is to wait until this summer. hubs will have coolers for camping and at that point I will explain to the boys - hopefully keeping within the levels they can understand - the dangers that are in that bottle.
So. Any info you would care to share with me?